Just like most of us on this planet, I didn't dream of being a family advocate when I grew up. After all, when I was small I fully expected to be president of the United States! I guess even as a small child I felt someone was pulling me to make a difference to a hurting planet. And although I did not become president, I did choose something equally as important.
It is my life's mission to empower others, specifically parents. What does that mean? Well, it for sure does not mean adding to the gluttony of resignation and hopelessness that's already out there. I believe that life can work and we have the answers within. Now you just need the proper glasses to see them.
My mission is to help you to clearly see the path. And my role is to help you look at yourself as a source for finding the relationship with your child that you want more than anything.
I have been a television producer, scriptwriter, graphic designer, photographer, video editor, college professor, elementary school teacher, curriculum author, executive director, business owner, anger management/domestic violence specialist, traffic school instructor, family mediator, waitress, receptionist, and even an ordained minister.
If you read my resume, you'd probably think, "wow, this woman has done everything," and yet the insecure little girl hidden underneath the achievements is really who drives me to be who I am. I just want to make my trip around this big blue marble mean something.
I grew up being raised by my very strong and determined mother. She had a tough upbringing and was determined to make it different for her children. My father traveled most of the time, so it was like living in a single parent home in many respects. My mother was always over worked, and frustrated that she had to do it alone. Yet, we saw our father as the knight in shining armor, because when he came home, for a day or two, everything was perfect. We resented our mother and adored our father with no justification other than feelings.
By 2001, I was the mother of five adoring sons, yet extremely miserable in my marriage and feeling terribly unaccomplished. I had spent a decade trying to fill many roles in my list to please my husband in hopes that I could feel good enough for myself. One day I woke up and I decided to take a turn from this predictable dysfunctional future that lay ahead for my family, so I left the marriage. The door that I walked through at that very moment would transform me into the lifelong family advocate I am now. Little did I know the hell I would stir up.
I have endured arrest, been on welfare, accused of child abuse, alienated from my children and ostracized by my community. I have overcome a husband's infidelity, parented drug-addicted step children, and in nearly half a million dollars in tax debt.
All of which I have survived and overcome.